Young people should select mates not entirely for sense of beauty nor one to manage household affairs only, but one who will understand you and be a mirror in which you receive recognition of yourself.
so a question on this: when he says recognition, does he mean recognition as in positive praise or does it mean recognition as in seeing more clearly your faults and weaknesses. does this mirror give you an exulted, praising view of yourself or a helpful criticism of yourself?
He means it in a positive way I think. You look at your spouse and find validation for who you are. Because you are like them and you share a lot in common. Anyone else have ideas?
I think it means both. You certainly want to have positive praise that rings true because it comes from a source that understands you. But you also need to have a mirror that helps you see your faults so that you can progress. Only kind mirrors work this way, however. If a mirror becomes a source of criticism only then it isn't looked into anymore. Good question Wynn.
I think it means exactly what is says, whether good or bad, just as you gaze into a mirror the image there...is what it is. You cannot lie or trick the mirror. You reflect who you are in that mirror. I think the same goes for marriage. When things are great, your spouse sees the best you and brings out the best in you, they support you in your efforts to be your best you can be, you reflect that in that image in the mirror. That is the case unless you visit the fun house and look at the distorted mirrors. But that is a whole different subject. love, mom
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so a question on this: when he says recognition, does he mean recognition as in positive praise or does it mean recognition as in seeing more clearly your faults and weaknesses. does this mirror give you an exulted, praising view of yourself or a helpful criticism of yourself?
He means it in a positive way I think. You look at your spouse and find validation for who you are. Because you are like them and you share a lot in common. Anyone else have ideas?
I think it means both. You certainly want to have positive praise that rings true because it comes from a source that understands you. But you also need to have a mirror that helps you see your faults so that you can progress. Only kind mirrors work this way, however. If a mirror becomes a source of criticism only then it isn't looked into anymore. Good question Wynn.
I think it means exactly what is says, whether good or bad, just as you gaze into a mirror the image there...is what it is. You cannot lie or trick the mirror. You reflect who you are in that mirror. I think the same goes for marriage. When things are great, your spouse sees the best you and brings out the best in you, they support you in your efforts to be your best you can be, you reflect that in that image in the mirror. That is the case unless you visit the fun house and look at the distorted mirrors. But that is a whole different subject. love, mom
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